Monday Da Man goes to the office and we have the day to ourselves. When you start at 5:30 it is a looonnnngggg day. I don't know how my dad and sister do it. It was not a great day overall. I felt like a loser parent as Muffin wants her own way constantly and feared someone might call 0000 or whatever they call here in Aus. It's not 911. She has this thing that she screams, "Don't get me"!" repeatedly when we are disagreeing...and I am trying to get her to cooperate even if I am in one room and she is in another. Yes, sometimes I am holding her, but often we are not touching so I am not sure the context...or what she means. From an outsiders hearing and perspective, I can see where they may call the police. If the police would come and give me a break, I might welcome them. We are all exhausted and I am torn between picking the battles and letting her win constantly. I recognize she is only nearly three and we have made a huge leap across oceans...but she was behaving this way stateside so I do not think it has much to do with this, but because we feel bad for her big change we have been suckers. Sometimes I think her "Don't get me" means don't leave me. As when she is in meltdown mode sometimes she wants comfort or at least all of my attention which tends to not happen, since her loudness often wakes up sweet baby brother, Finn. This is one of those days that I would like to erase. Thankful for a new day tomorrow.
My big mission was to get vitamins for the Muffin today and we found a Chemist on the other side of the block. Not gummies like she has at home. They remind me more of the Flintstone type vitamins I had when I was a kid, you know kinds sweet tart like....with that powdery coating? She loves them.
Then we pick up some lunch, because my grocery delivery window was only available in the evening...and though Muffin can eat pb and crackers and cream cheese and crackers daily. I love them, too, but I seek a bit more variety. We take the lunch back to our apartment and eat it!
Finn is napping 2 to 3 times a day now. So, if we follow this schedule we certainly don't have much time, but all works out because it is miserably hot and humid today. I get the apartment "Hoovered" and the laundry hung to dry. Seems the dryer does not want to dry on a normal consistent basis. So, I wash, hang and then stick them in the dryer to "fluff".
I meant to tell you all about how Hyde Park turns into Gotham City by night. These huge birds fly over and about. I presumed they were big ass bats, and after The Man did some research, confirmed this. He has yet to see them because he hasn't peeked out...he crashes and stays crashed early. I crash early and get up, check babies even if one or the other of us is in a bed with a kid. It is like musical beds here.
Back to this crazy day...The MAN flies home for a quick stop by (get out of the gutter, folks) and then he is off to a work dinner. We wait for H-berry to wake up. the food courts are so busy and I just don't feel up to it so we try McDonald's for the first time. Muffn has eaten a grilled cheese "triangle" before we go and basically only ate some fries. OMG the cheese is real McDonald's cheese, burger does not taste funny. Macca's as the natives say is better than Hard Rock!
Feeling pretty rotten this night after Viv and I had tantrums. Then I decide to try to find this expats blog I found a while back and stumble on a Australian mums blog. Think this may be a better or more interesting read and find it by clicking on site about winning Sydney bloggers. Did not need to read that one when already in the dumps, but I was trying to stay awake for the grocery delivery. Somehow that never happened. The Man had a work dinner and another one planned for him Tuesday. Real life settles in though we are a world away from so much of our lives...
Day 2
Call Woolies, which I have since found out is also a "variety store" and they say they tried to ring up to me last night at 730. I was here. Where else would I be with two babies at almost bed time? How could I miss hearing it in this tiny apartment? Don't know. Reschedule delivery of groceries. Nothing really great to talk about for this day. Get our coffee and muffins from 7-11. Take kids out to Hyde Park, where hot guy helps lift stroller up the few steps. Huckleberry plays on a blanket. Muffin and I play "soccer". Then we go to the cafe under our building for lunch. A BLT is much more a HLT here. I miss bacon already. They have to have it. This was ham. Then we go back to the apt .Later, after groceries are delivered and H-berry's nap, we head out to Darling Harbor. Even though I knew what to do, I went the wrong way and had a strenuous mountain climb walk pushing 70lbs. in Darlinghurst. So, we end up back in Hyde Park. Muffin is asleep. Girl likes to nap when she is strapped in! Otherwise fights it. Play with H-berry and people watch. Not people watch us. We watch the people! (The fashion here is crazy and I suddenly have no worries about my limited mom wardrobe.) Muff stays asleep in stroller, Huck naps. I make spaghetti for Muff for dinner. She only eats a few bites. Much less dramatic day. Much better. Feel like a better mama today. Rest in peace!
Meanwhile, The Man is having a much more exciting day, teambuilding offsite from the office...flying on the trapeze. Not kidding. If it were me, I'd be ticked. Oh, hell, no! So, he gets home late. We are all asleep. We house hunt on Wednesday with the relocation specialist Jennifer.
House Hunting
Beaches are not far away, but the best beach living places are out of reach for us, and the ones that are reachable kind of remind us of some of the older homes like we had in the Fan or in downtown Annap. when TM (The Man hereafter) lived there. Except it is so hilly. And we don't want an old dirty rental for our top dollar.We have sent Jennifer some properties we found interesting, but end up going to the first house again as our last house. More on that in a bit. Let me just say, that we are paying our mortgage at home, even if it rents. The interested family we thought were sold on it, plan to return to see it this week, after having their lawyer look at the lease. So, even if it rents, we still will have to make up the difference, plus whatever we pay here for rent. Might be poorer here than there even with the salary increase. These homes made be pine for our "pink house". While we knew we would make some sacrifices, it just bewildered us. A few had bedrooms on multiple levels and were not practical for us. One that I really liked online...had a door out of the house from each bedroom. Just too much possible escapism or takism for me. That one looked like a traditional US brick rambler on the outside could be off Brickhouse Rd. in Dunkirk. You have to go out of the house to do the laundry. NOT! It is in a beautiful neighborhood. Houses in the millions. We simply can't afford to raise our pricepoint and we are just shocked that this is what is is!
So, house number one, I love it immediately. It is cozy. TM not so sure at first, until we see the 6 or 7 others. The strange part is the bedrooms are in front, but when you see the garden in the back you understand why it is set up this way. It's cottage-y. Skinny porch around the front and side, veranda with awning, brick patio, gated pool and "spa" and a cabana house with a full bath in the back.There you go, we have a guest house (bedroom number four is out the door!)! It is set up this way by the owners. Beautiful flowers, and "bush" around it. Yes, I said bush. I think that equals woods or forest.. It is on the market for sale for offers 1.7 million and above. Please, don't think this is an uppity home. Seriously, it is a one storey, nice home. It is a 3 bedroom of modest proportions. It has dated appliances, no aircon and a shower/ tub with no doors or curtain. It is beside the Greenwich Public School grades 2-6 and a neighborhood park beside that and "bush walks" nearby! It is close to North Sydney where Seth will work, and a steep climb to the bus stop for him each day... and close enough to things for me to do...but I will be driving on the other side of the road in a car we don't yet have! A preschool is not far off and I will have to apply soon.
It does have a wine fridge under the house, they may store it, and some storage. Since we are supposed to live outdoors, this one was most perfect. Oh and really cool bar in the house near the kitchen. They take their table from the kitchen outdoors for the summer so their eat in kitchen area which is pretty large is empty. There is also a dining room and one living room area inside. I think the dining room will likely be the play room, and we will be off to IKEA to furnish the rest. Funny, I thought we would go modern, but now we have this bungalow with all wood floors (timbers they call them here, Timber!). Truthfully, the carpeting was so gross in all of the rentals that had it, I prefer to have it all wood. Maybe we can reuse the rugs we get here in the states. We needed them there,too!
So, our indecision did not last long. We are in negotiations. The people seemed lovely and offered us tea on our second visit. What's two years, right? We have seen the rush for a good rental. It is crazy. They do open houses on Wed. some Fridays and Sat. They are open for 15 minutes. Then the agent leaves to open another house for 15 minutes...and if it is occupied, the people stay in 'um! At least at two of the ones we went to. The others were unoccupied or both working parents. Jennifer asked the agent to hold off other viewings for us to get our papers in, etc. I am surprised they do this, since a deal is not sealed until it is. But that is nice that she is doing so.
Backing up a bit. I get a massive migraine last night and can't discuss this stuff any further. For some reason, I get these headaches and then I get panic attacks. Maybe because I feel so bad I want to relieve it with a bullet to my head? (no worries, folks, we are not weaponed, don't even have a water gun). Or maybe because I worry it could be something other than a migraine? I don't know, but thank God TM took over and tired lil Huck took all his naps and night night sleep into one, poor thing. Then I am smelling that strong odor of perfume I have smelled in here before. It is making my nausea from the headache almost inevitable to end in a vomit! I have smelled the smell before and had decided it must be the perfume of the person in the apt next door. I discover it is like one of those plug ins and pull it out. Thank God. I hate when a strong smell completely permeates a room and that includes when someone does it with their perfume/cologne. Let me rattle on about this one. Seems a good day for a rant. I think perfume is for yourself and others close to you to smell if you let 'um close enough, not the world and the whole room so that all clothing of others, etc smells like you. It is suffocating. It's like invasion of personal space. So if you are an over-perfumer out there in the world of cyberspace, tone it down. Really. Save some for later. I am conservative with perfume because I figure if I am lucky enough to be clean, I am happy. And I have a baby stuffing his head all into me and I don't want to stuff him all up with perfume.And I just don't want people to smell me before they see me, even if it is a seemingly good eau de parfum!
We had to decide whether we are going to decide by noon today but we get contacted before then and don't want to lose out on this...so we say we will sign a one year lease with option for a second year. We are hopeful that the promise of cool breezes will save us and fans and the pool. But I already told the relo lady, I don't leave the house opened at night with my babies... The owners want to go abroad a bit. They are British. I have no idea. If I could sell my house for 1.7 (obviously they were not successful) I would move out of it,too. And go abroad for a bit. Maybe not two years. WTH was I thinking?!!
So it looks like we have a house in Greenwich. Keep you posted. Move in, if all gets ironed out Dec.18th weekend, our shipped stuff comes mid-January! Oh my. I feel better today, much. But I still might throw up.
Bonus today: It is rainy and we are hanging at home and the dryer worked for at least one load so far.
Double bonus: Just met my apt neighbor. Ex-pats here for 2 years from Cali. Has a 17 month old. Plan on getting together sometime soon. They plan to stay here in the city. Been here for almost a year. Maybe I have a friend besides our hired relo. consultant who is so sweet-she did invite us to her apt today for a playdate with her grandchildren. It's just mucky out and Huck is exhausted...and I'd have to haul them out, hire a taxi with carseats, call on her to pick us up, or get on public transport which is not so appealing as the one with the lift is not the one directly across the street from us.
Oh well, wonder what's for dinner? I am NOT cooking. Somehow set off the smoke alarm making brekkie today. Luckily, no fire brigade came. So I still have money left of my 7 to 900 for take away:0)